My mom hates me!
76Update
Well here we are almost 2 years since my first blog. My mother returned to jail this week, violation of probation. Not sure how much time she will get. I havent spoken to her in about a year.
Since the last time I posted I decided to focus a little on myself. I signed up to complete my schooling to become a Cosmetologist and graduated with honors. Doing hair was my dream as a child and I can say that I LOVE going to work every day! I still have an longing to help children that are in tough situations so today I enrolled in school. I am pursuing my BA in Psychology and who knows from there.
All of this being said, hold your head high and remember only YOU can choose your path... Make it as good as you want it!
Wedding Day
Thanks to everyone that has supported my hub and keeps coming back!
Three days before our wedding I spoke to my mother and mad arrangements for her to get to and from the wedding and also arranged for her lodging. Then she old me she has nothing to wear maybe she can borrow a dress from someone but she has no shoes to match... Then she says she will just come barefoot because she is "a hippy soul" I told her absolutely NOT! She agrees.
So wedding day is here Im dressed and ready for the best day of my life! I am being asked the repeated question... Nichole, wheres your mom? or Nichole is your mom here yet.... NO SHE NEVER SHOWED!!!!!
While on our honeymoon FIVE days AFTER our wedding my phone rings its my mom! The nerve I thought. I didn't answer and let her go to my voice mail... She left a message and its her playing a song on my voicemail " I hope you dance" seriously? Then she yells into the phone OVER the song and says "this song always makes me think of you" and hangs up. WHO DOES THAT? Not a single word about the wedding or even being sorry. No lame excuse as to why she wasn't there...
We just had our six month anniversary and I still haven't spoken to my mother. I found out through my sister that my mother got married a few months ago, I never knew. I have decided to just keep the ties cut and not have anything more to do with her or her drama. My brother and sister both speak to her on a regular basis but respect my wishes and support me fully.
"My Typical Mom"
So yesterday my phone rings and its my mother. My fiance' picks up my phone looks at me and says its your mom. So the whole inner debate starts... do I answer or not. Then I get excited because she obviously realized what an ass she was when we last spoke and she didn't say a word about the wedding. So frantically I answer the call. Here's how it went: Hey do you have a second? (me: yes, whats up?) Well I need your opinion, I know how you kids always say "Oh, Mom you are overreacting!" So I wanted to get your thoughts on something first... Once again my heart sinks, because as always she only wants something... After all why else would she call?
To give you a quick picture of the present situation of my mother, brother and sister so you can better understand all of this:
I am my mothers oldest child. ( I was "what she always wanted" ha! Now I am the "selfish bitch" of the family because I don't allow myself or my family (children & fiance) to become involved in the EVERY DAY drama of my mother and sisters lives.)
My mom pretty much let my younger brother do what ever he wanted growing up so she was always the "cool mom" However at 18 my brother was popping pills and on a destructive path going south... My brother made bad decisions got into trouble and is now on the tail end of a 10 year prison term...
My little sister which I raised from age 14-18 was good up until my mother went to prison, yep that's right... My mom did 2 years in prison for many charges, violation of probation, assault on a health care worker and 3 DUIs.... That is when my sister went to hell.
My sister was arrested for shoplifting and also received several traffic tickets eventually causing her license to be suspended. So over the past 2 1/2 years she has been in and out of jail. Her first time in jail she was there with our mom. Since it was a small town they were together and this allowed them to "bond" isn't that sweet! My mother was awaiting a transfer at the time to the State Prison where she served her term.
Okay all of that being said, I am the only one of my mothers children that will not accept her drinking life style. I love my mother and sent her money and letters while she was in prison. I am the one that picked her up the day she was released. She came home and was drinking again within weeks. She decided to move in with her sister (another poor choice) I begged her not to but that didn't help.
My mom got a job and an apartment and was supporting herself and my little sister who just had a baby. (My sisters husband was in jail for driving on a suspended) They were doing okay but my mothers drinking got worse and worse to where she is now just like she was before she went to prison.
My sister got caught driving in a suspened yet again! She was arrested but my mom bailed her out the same day) Remember she now has a newborn. My sisters husband got out of jail this past March so he is now living with them. My sister was sentenced to 90 days jail time and had to turn herself in on July 30thso now it is her husbands turn with the baby. He works alot so they all agreed that they baby would stay downstairs withmy mom. (She moved in with the downstairs neighbor that I guess is her boyfriend.)
Now to the part of why I got the phone call yesterday from my mom...
My mom apparently went up stairs to my sister and her husbands apartment to get some of the babies things. He was not home so when she went into the apartment there were so girls "items" on my sisters bed along with some girls shoes. (My mom and sister wear the same size shoe and according to my mom these were not my sisters shoes)
So my mom called me to advise me of this situation and to ask me if she was over reacting to what she saw. My mom went and packed ALL of my sisters things and put them in storage. She also took all of the babies things to her house. So my little sister is oblivious to all that is going on while she is in jail.
So the entire conversation lasted a total of maybe 3 minutes and again as usual not a single word or question about my children, my family, my new business or the wedding that is in weeks.
Hello
Hello!
I am 29 years old. It was just today that I came to terms and realized that my mother truly hates me. To deal with this I have decided to blog about my life growing up with my mother. Up until today I still allowed my mom to disappoint me and always had hope that she would change. I realized today that that will probably never happen. And you know what, that's okay with me.
Driving home from Orlando today I was running my past with my mom through my mind. I am getting married in 29 days and my mother has yet to ask about one single detail about the wedding. My father asks me why I expect her to change now (hence she never has and she never will) I am not a writer so I am not sure of how to go about this but I will do it! =)
The story that plays fresh in my mind today is from earlier this week. My phone rang and it was my mother, (excited that she was ready to join the wedding fun) I answered and allshe said was: "Hi, I just wanted to know when I was able to go see your brother." I felt my insides drop! As usual she was only calling because she needed/wanted something. Not a SINGLE word about the wedding.
Then there is the other part of me that is painfully grateful that she may not be coming to the wedding. My mother is an alcoholic (that doesnt explain her feelings to me as she is very different to my younger sister and brother, I am her oldest child.) So the fact that she is an alcoholic has me a little worried about my wedding reception. I have decided to let the bartenders know that she will be responsible for her drinks not father, my fiance' or myself.
The fact that my mother does not work should help that she may not be able to afford to by drinks. But she may have a friend drive her to the wedding since she has no car or drivers license and that friend is more then likely a drinker that works so I will then have to worry about 2 drunk people at my wedding. Don't get me wrong I know that people get drunk at weddings all of the time and that's part of the "fun" but not my mother. But she seems to have forgotten that I am getting married so maybe she will not be there.
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ithink this is a good site because my mom hates me so much i hate my self
I know how jaketulle feels. There is no rational explaining why some mothers may hate one of their own children. There are explanations, but they are not reasons for such behavior. I'm going to follow this blog.
I to grew up with a critizing, screaming, mother. She actually abandoned me as a baby then at age 12 i had to live with her. I remember feeling embarrassed alot and had feelings of low self esteem. She ignored me most of the time and she was'nt around a whole alot. When she was around she was very angry with me. I am not close with either one of my parents i was a major oops baby! I am now 30 and have paid the price for it all my life. It was not something i did. I am not wierd, stupid, or even ugly. I am kind of pretty. My mom and dad blew me off as a baby it was my drunk ass dad vs. my bligrent mother. It was bad but i pulled through. married with child and pretty happy. But as far as my in-laws go OH NO!!! i just can't WIN with parents it was not in the stars for me. Its their loss more then mine or YOURS!!! It's just the way it is. Not to be mean or morbid but I am glad I am not the only one who was rejected by their MOM and DAD.
BTW no need to make an excuse for her. I hope that you find peace someday with it. I'd like some too. IT hurts very much I know it does. It was'nt anything you did your mom can't come to terms with the fact (like my selfish mom) that the revolving door needs be around you sometimes. YOUR WEDDING DAY. THE NERVE. It's your day not hers. I hardly speak to my parents maybe 3-4 times a year and that's on the phone or a family thing. My mom only calls for a reason it aint hi how are you, it's always for something that benifits her. My dad calls to say hi a couple times a year and when he calls he sounds so sad like EEYORE!! It's a very quick call. You are probably a great daughter and always will be.
My mother hates me too. In my opinion the problem with those mothers is that if they hate you you hate yourself too, and you need lots ot years to lioke and love yourself. It is a vicious circle: your parents are the first human beings you see and ifthey hate you You will start to be scared by all the human race because you are afraid they will try to hurt you as your parents do. So you are not loved by your poarents, you do not love yourself because you feel it is your fault if your parents hate you and finally you hardly will find someone who really love you because you end up with problems with human beings in general. I am 32, and I am on the way of happiness because I finally found a way to heal myself and love myself. But I thing that growing up with parents who hate you is very hard. My mother REALLY hates me. But nobody knows and nobody would believe. Even my brother could not believe it, because she has never been so mean with him, just with me, and always with no one witness.I d like to help in the future people like me and you, because it is unbelivable that parents hate children and try the best they can to ruin their life but it happens and not only in slums or bad bloks but in nice reach houses like mine, where the mother is the housewife and pretend to be a lovely mum while she throw hate on a child who is in her power
I am 32 years old, going through a divorce and because I lost my job, I am living at home with my mother. Ever since I came here she has been incredibly mean. It was her idea that I come here in the first place after my husband and I split and now she treats me like she hates me. I have 2 sisters of which I am the middle child, and I am the only one who has done everything she has ever asked me to do. When I graduated from college she told me my degree wasn't good enough. When my husband decided he wanted a divorce she said that she can't believe he is hurting HER like this. I lost my job and have been out of work for a year and she doesn't ever let me forget it. I am looking for work so that I can move out and she keeps saying that I don't have to leave. My younger sister just moved back home with her 2 children and she treats her totally differently. I am so fed up and I really want change but I'm stuck as far as how to achieve it. Sometimes I get so depressed that my thoughts become unfocused and I no longer think about finding work. I spend a lot of time closed up in my room so that she doesn't have to look at me. The quicker I'm out of here, the better. To anyone going through the same situation, my prayers go out to you. I truly understand what you're going through. Try to stay positive and I will do the same.
im so sorry just hang on to wat u have of the mother that loves and things will get better. I promise.
Hi! My mom hates me, my sister and my dad..she wants peace..there is a story behind this..her marriage was a tragedy...dad was not supportive initially..but after few years dad became an wonderful husband that anybody would envy..but mom could not recoup..she cried cried cried ,,all the time,, she had an affair, dad tolerated everything.. I was growing with all these misery around...Mom s very skillful at talking,and dad can't argue with her at all..life went on like this..she fell in love with another man....I did not like this idea,like any kid would do!(HAHA)but i grew up and started being supportive to my mom,,no matter what,,i loved my mom,.she s funny like me..hmm..but later some day she asked for a divorce from dad..our family was in hell of trouble then,.somehow we al managed to set things right.she refused to live with dad,,and sought another home..yes she did..i lived with her too..i was juggling between 2 houses..hmmm..now i grew up,,need to marry..dad found a guy,,i liked him.,,now the problem is,,mom feels more isoloated..she hates me more..dunno what will happen if im married..she s a stubborn lady.very much..I dunno what to do...
Hi, My mom also hates me I am 29 years old, she has always been there to point at my mistakes, she has cheated on my father all the time, once with the best friend of an ex boyfriend when I was 17, My parents recently divorce and finally beacuse it was a horrible marriage, my poor father suffers, she claims i shouldnt have sopported him because no matter what she does she is my mother, and she has talked bad stuff about me to everyone, I have two kids, she never helps me with them once i asked for her help she said she already raised her own kids and that it is my problem, she left me and my sister one year living with my fathers sisters, i have decided to cut any contact with her becasue i dont think she does any good tome to my family or mmy marriage i dont know if this is worng.
some times my mam hates me and some times i hate my mam too.
my mam was kind on mothers day. i dunno why my mam hates me some times. write back some one! XXX
My mother hates me too. For a long time, she's the most important person of my life. She is all about herself. I've given her years and years of chances to change, but nope, she refused to listen. She loves to use silient treatment on me and it torn me to pieces. She wants to own me. She was fine until I showed love to anyone else, including my husband, kid even a freaking CAT!!! I'm 35 and I'm done with her torturing. The more I was hurt, the happier she got. What's wrong with these uncaring mothers?
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I don't know who you are, but the similarities between what you say in your posts with how your mother treats you and is identical to me and my life. My mother hates me...I have just gotten married and moved out and she doesn't ever talk to me. I have a younger sister and younger brother, both of whom I helped to raise...until now ofcourse because I do not see them. I have tried everything to be friends with my mom and all she does is dissapoint, and hurt me...oh and borrow money and not repay it. Just reasding your blog made me feel like there was someone else in the world who knows exactly what I am going through....so thank you...I am glad you wrote about your life growing up. It made me feel not so alone.
Nicole
Sarasota, FL
In my situation its not my mom that hates me its my dad. My entire life he has been an alcoholic and a druggie. He would blame others for his problems. I haven't spoken to him in 3 years. Last time is saw him he showed up at my wedding drunk and had to be escorted out of the church by my father-in-law. He has never met my son and he never will. Ever since he has been out of my life I have been so much happier.
I think I can relate to almost everyone in these posts...except for I'm not sure if my mom hates me but I definatly hate her. My parents split when I was 14yrs old. I was chosen to live with my mother, she tried so bad to make me hate my dad but I have always related better with him. From 14 on she is now a single mother raiseing me and my 7yr old sister, She has a busy job inwhich she works from 5am-5pm. I did my best to cook and clean and watch my little sister while my mom was working, NOTHING was ever good enough I would clean the entire house and have dinner on the table when she got home and she still would scream at me. She was an emotional abuser always screaming only at me tho never my sister... when I turned 17 I moved out and went to college, usually its a happy time in a parents life to see their child off but she was not we got into a fight the day I left and I didn't talk to her for months after that... I've always wanted a mom to be loving and caring and supportive but i've never experienced that and I am jelious of my friends that have that. I am now 24 years old and have helped my mother alot finacially that seem like the only time we do get along is when I am paying her electric bill that day before it is getting shut off. My little sister is now 17 and going to be a senior in high school and now is experiancing my mother for herself except for she is not getting emotionally abused my mother is now an alcoholic and neglects her. I try hard to be an influencial woman in my sisters life and I feel her pain soooo bad except she doesn't get treated like crap like I did. I not sure what I am looking for in this post I'm just glad I'm not the only one in the world... thanks
hii everyone !
i know what you are going through in alot of ways.
my moms hates me so much that she only sees me about a few times a week. whenever im with her, we fight just about every few seconds..literally. she is ALWAYS putting me down but when it comes to something she likes, its ok. she pisses me off so much that im on a borderline of running away. she gives me so much stress and sadness that im starting to become emo. i have depression now. shes not the only reason im this way now but shes a big part of it. when i was little, she loved me to death and now that im a teenager, its like "fuck you, i dont want you anymore" i feel like she doesnt love me. she picks guys over me in a heart beat. if she sees a guy she likes, she literally walks away from me and goes to him/them. i thought i was suppose to be the most important person in her life? i guess not. the guys she talks to, i cant stand and she knows this but she doesnt care how i feel. i know i need theropy but i dont have the money. my dad and mom are divorced and my dad was an alcoholic but i would rather live with him or my uncle in indiana or my aunt a few minutes away or even my aunt in puerto rico then my mom but as if they would let me. my grand parents are more like my mom and dad and i live with them but my mom lives a few seconds away so its not that great. i dont hate my mom but its getting really close to that point. this isnt even half of how much my life sucks. im glad to know im not the only one suffering..thank you..?
man where has this blog been all my life...I too have grown up with a selfish, vindictive, concieted, harsh, judgemental, cruel, coniving, thick-headed, self absorbed, woman for a mother (and that's just me putting it nicely) and no I'm not complaining, I justwant to vent...when I was a small child she had no issue with me but then I turned 6 when I turned 6 I became her enemy...she's called me every name in the book from about 6 up until now...she ooks atme with such hate and disgust...part of me believes she's jelous but then I think what the hell is she jelous of me for? She's always starting rumors about me to other family members, she's always making me out as the antagonist...I am now th black hseep of the family...everyone judges me and criticizes me because of her...she's never sympathetic to any of my needs...I tried to open up to her yesterday about my now ex boyfriend and all she had to say was her stupid views of why she was right...I could hear the satisfaction in her voice...she ADORES my ,little brother, and treats him like a prince...she's even called him her star child... she's always hugging him and telling him she loves him but when I try to hug her she pushes me away, and if I tell her I love her she replies coldly no you don't...I remember a time Iwas only 8 and I asked her for something and she flat out told me go to hell...I never thought that I would feel this much hatred towards a human being even though it goes against my beliefs, but I do...this sounds horrible, but it's the truth..Ican't wait until August 27th that's when I leave this place for college...and let me tell you she's already doubting me based on the discouraging things she says to me...but the best revenge you can seek on someone is proving them wrong...and I plan to...sorry I'm not trying to make this long, but I felt the need to share a little piece of my life..thanks for reading, and have a blessed day
It's sad to say, but my mother hates me as well. I've always believed that when a mother has more than 3 children(not in every case) there is usually one that she hates for one reason or another. My mother had 5 children. Some of the details of David Peltzer book, "A child called It" reminded me of my childhood. My mother is still living and still spews out venom. I've always hated attending the family gatherings, but I have been attending...just tolerating them. But the last one on the 4th of July ... well, I give up. I call it quits. I once expected my mother to change but that'll never happen.
WOW! I am 68 years old. I feel that my mother has hated me since conception. There are 5 of us - I am the oldest girl with a brother 18 months older than me. My father died at a very young age (27) and left her with 3 small children. Within a year she married a very successful man and had 2 more children. About the time I was 11 or 12 I was told by both of them what a whore I was and that no boy would ever want to date me - except "to get into my pants". I wasn't really sure what a whore was at the time. I've never undersrood the hate and venum from them/her. I married a successful man who was the best thing that ever happened to me. He died 10 years ago. She beat me up the night before my wedding. She insisted that I wear a loaned wedding dress from her friend's daughter - size 12 - I was size 6 and the vale was ripped and full of holes. I paid for most of it. We had 3 sons - they don't have much to do with me either and have alienated my grandchildren from me. I just wish I could I could see the BIG PICTURE. I must have a major flaw that I'm not really aware of. I just returned from visiting my 92 year old mother. I do truly love her, admire her, and honor her but---------------it's never enough. She just had to throw up "I can see why you have trouble with your children - the way you are....." I have worked and have never asked for anything from her but her love. She may love me - but I am surely hurting right now. I feel bull whipped and battered. I would think that at this stage in life there could be peace.
my friend seems to think her mum hates her. she says she has a go at her all the time, and treats her little brother like a prince, i feel for my friend. She tried to move to her dads but her dad wouldnt let her. Very rearly she can be nice, and shes always in a mood.
can anyone suggest anything that my friend can do to make sure she doesnt have a go at her for being ill or anything?
I am able 2 state that my mom hate me and she does not care about her only child!! which is ok i am use to being treated like i do not exist.. I can't wait to die i know everyone will be happy ...
So first iw ant to say my mother and father loved me... untill they passed away 2 years ago during whitch i was 12. (I am a guy) So then having no more family members i went to a foster home (i was not yet adopted) i enjoyed living there and qickly got over the loss of my family. (in a good way) Then some "nice" couple came over and told me they wanted to adopt me. I felt sure why not. They were nice to me in the time it took for me to move in and accept their offer. Then some serious shit went down. The moment i walked in the door with my stuff the torment began. I asked after i set up my room if i could set up my xbox so i could chat with my buddies later in the day. And they took right out of my hands and through it on a wall. LIKE WTF!? it was broken good as that and then my new foster mother grabbed me by the sholder quite hard and said "no that you are in my house you will follow my rules" and the following is exactly what she said: "You will have no games (okay not so bad but i will convince them i am a good child), You will be homeschooled, you will not have friends, you will wake up early to do your studies, you will go to bed late after your studies. that sh** stuck in my head for a long ass time. they won't have me do anything... the very fact that im on this computer is cause i am back at a foster home with quite a few stiches where that bith of a mother cut me with a knife for "getting a 99% on my math test". I was in that house for 2 weeks and never want to see another human being again. I was horrified when the doctor put the mask on ym face so that i could "sleep" when they were going to stich up the wounds. Fact i am on a "chill pill" cause i can barley move an inch without shivering in fear. Luckely for me i am in a good mood today, i ahve one of my best friens riight next to me so ic an be calm as i write this. Well hope this gives some insite as to the bas people in the world. I move out again tommarow. Guess who? My dad that disapeared for 2 years in iraq. :D
My mom never loves me
I understand! Exept, it's my sister! My mom and sister were fighting and my mom kicked her. She is 16 and started crying. What do I do?
My mom hates me too. She left me home alone with my jerk of a brother just because I didn't understand my homework. Im only 11
why is she lacking motivation and not seeing the emotional abuse. i guess i just have to walk away and whats worse is my younger sister may grow up faster than i did. but i pray and try to make a living (just enough to get by) getting ready for college nd i am 22. i have faith that my sister ill be stronger than me. im ready to walk away. i wish my mom would open her eyes and try to improve who she is and what she believes in. not for me. for my sister. god bless everyone. be strong.
HATE!
My mother never once told me she loved me or ever hug me as a child. She looked for reasons to beat me and acted like she enjoyed every minute of it would beat me until she ran out of energy. She even treatend to kill me once when I was a child. She pushed me out of the house at 15 years old on a man 11 years older that me. I've been with him now for 44 years and have 2 wonderful children grand children and great children yet it still causes me depression has always made me feel like if she hated me why would anyone even want to be a friend. I had not friends in school didn't know how to make friends guess you think if your own mother doesn't love you who would even want to be friends with you. Now she is 80 yrs. old and is a widow and thinks we should all be one happy family even though my children feel uncomfortable calling her grandma because they were never around her, she was to busy pleasing herself and didn't have time for family then but now that's all changed and she wonders why her children can't gather round and act as if we all had a normal life. My dad did love us he was gone a lot he drove a truck and he didn't realize all this was going on as children we just never thought of saying anything or maybe we were just afraid. Unfortunately he passed away when he was 46 years old I hate to say this but I wished it has been her instead of him. I really can't stand my mother and it's all I can do to keep from telling her off for the way she treated us but I think she has blocked it out of her mind and she can really go balistic if you bring up any of her faults. She did some really hateful things to me even after I go grown just don't understand a person like this, I was determined my children would not grow up that was and they didn't.
Thats just how my mom is. She treats my little sister like shes still a baby! She makes me clean my sisters room and then when i say she can do it herself my mom will say "you disgust me your pathetic". She always has the last word. Whenever shes in a bad mood and i say something she doesnt like she goes Shut the f*ck up! she calls me a c*nt alot and then she tells my sister to make sure she never grows up to be like me and never talk to me. She slaps me alot and pushes me down and i cant tell anyone because if i do she will make me go live with my dad! Shes made me feel worthless and i have no self confidence because of her! i want to run away so badly but i know i cant do anything. My mom never helps me with my homework but yet she always has time for other people. She puts her phone first then my sister and i have to raise myself. She pushed me down recently and my grandma walked in and saw i was crying so i had to lie! My mom always says how she wishes she could have gotten a normal kid! Even when we are at stores she will whisper things to me saying i hate you you are so pathetic!!!! and people even stare and i wish somebody would say something! im only 11
My mother hated me too. She beat me, and would have me put in juvenile jail because I wouldn't do the dishes and I refused to make my bed, clean her room, make my brother's bed, etc.
I was suppose to be the maid but I never agreed to that.
I would then be strip searched by the matrons at juvenile lock up. THEY never asked me what was going on, and why I was running away from home. Had they asked I would have told them about how she had a 2X4 in her hand and how she was about to hit me in the head with it.
I later had memories about how she tried to drown me when I was 2 or 3 years old. She tried to choke me, and often pressed a pillow on my face, when I was small. I learned to turn my head to the side, so that I could get some air between the pillows, over on the side. This saved my life.
She was mean to me and a murderer. and when she couldn't succeed at physical murder, she soul murdered me, and for the rest of my life.
She character assassinated me to anyone who would listen. People mostly listened because people like that type of nasty gossip. Few, if any, ever took my side.
I later found out there were satan worshippers, and demon channelers on mom's side of the family.
I got saved, I mean really saved when I was a teenager at a bible study. After I became the "good kid" she hated me even more.
Eventually she took me to court, made me a ward of the state where we lived. and I went to jail for a year. The reason: the court told me I was incorrigible.
I wasn't. I talked back, I disagreed. But having a thought of my own threatened her to no end.
Now that she died a year and a half ago, my brother has taken up where she left off. I will be 58 and he will be 59. He hates me the same as she did. I stay away from him because he would beat me, along with her(when I was a teen age girl).
I have made a life pretty much by myself. Trust is a big issue with me. So I don't have very many people in my life.
I have no mother, no father, no brother, no other siblings, I don't have children, a husband, nothing.
Most of my relatives, on both mom and dad's side of the family are just like my mom. If they could hurt me, beat me and kill me, they definitely would!
Don't be smart. Don't be pretty, Don't be creative, don't have a thought of your own, and be able to think above and beyond where they are at. because if you do, you will be a piece of crap to them, because they are easily threatened.
Let them go to hell.
I'm beginning to like being alone because I keep finding more people like those whom I don't want to be around.
The more I get to know people, the more I like my cat!
My mother has hated me since I can Remember. She made sure I knew that because she wanted me to hear it from her mouth. The three words I heard as a child were not "I love you", they were "I hate you!" Repeatedly!!!! She made my sisters beat me up. She stayed with my father after she found out that he was sexually abusing us. I had my last straw at 40 years old, she
my mom use to love me
till she got in pills i was forced to raise my baby sister at the age of 12 and was forced to play mom.
on saterday im moveing to arknaw with friends...with not a penny to my name cuse i let her barow it all
and never payed me back
my mom at one point was abusive but i wasent gona stand that much longer. so it became verble abuse.....she still makes me cook and clean and i havent been able to get my drivers licence she made me quit highschool and im trying so hard to pick up the shambles...and now a few days befor my birthday at 24 im moveing out and i feel horable cuse she wishes i was dead...and when i leave to never call and she hopes i do well and she might as well kill her self cuse my sister is gona turn out like me and she is gona send her to her idodic father...and im so sick of her being so fucking selfish...for once in my damn life ...can i do something with out her controleing me? can i do something with out feeling used and worthless...ive tryed geting a job but no one tells me when some one calls her cell (ower only phone) im so tierd of it.
im done. i want out i love my mom no mater what she did to me cuse i still remeber my mommy befor she got on the pills
i remeber my black hair mom with her big loveing arms.
when she says...she hates me ...it kills me...and it hurts to leave my baby sis cuse....shes my baby to.
im all messed up and i dont know where to turn...
Just realized today how my mother detests me. Growing up, I always felt as if there was something I wasn't doing right, because she would not give the same approval she gave the other siblings. Nothing I did was ever good enough. She hates it when my father is kind to me. She hates it when I am successful. It's been very painful, but from today I will let her go. There is nothing I can about the situation except to leave them and be on my own. I think she'll be happier too - the black sheep of the family is going to vanish.
Hello
My name is elina i reside in canada, I have been successfully married for 12year without issues, but just about few months ago I have been having serious difficulty and misunderstanding in my marriage and it almost leading to a divorce. I could not even tolerate it any more i have to take my kids with me and move out, but i sincerely love my husband to the fullness just dont know why he behaving strange lately.
This continuos for about 8months and just two weeks ago he went for a divorce lette which i and my kids are not ready for because i love im so much.
I explain to a family cousin who then introduce me to a spell caster call priest mountain on his email ID houseofmountains@gmail.com, it was this spell caster that then helped me with a powerful love spell to return my husband to the man i got married to and not the one he is now.
The spell caster did the spell and in just 5 days later, my husband came back to his rightful senses and came to my house were i was then staying with my kids. he came crying and begging me and the kids never to do anything rash ever again.
I was surprise seeing my husband crying for his wrong deeds.
And this was what the spell caster told me that its going to happen and indeed it happened.
I am so happy seeing my husband loving me just as we use to when we just got married.
My sincere thanks to the spell caster ''Priest Mountain''
You can reach him on his email id on houseofmountains@gmail.com
Thanks.
Hello
My name is elina i reside in canada, I have been successfully married for 12year without issues, but just about few months ago I have been having serious difficulty and misunderstanding in my marriage and it almost leading to a divorce. I could not even tolerate it any more i have to take my kids with me and move out, but i sincerely love my husband to the fullness just dont know why he behaving strange lately.
This continuos for about 8months and just two weeks ago he went for a divorce lette which i and my kids are not ready for because i love im so much.
I explain to a family cousin who then introduce me to a spell caster call priest mountain on his email ID houseofmountains@gmail.com, it was this spell caster that then helped me with a powerful love spell to return my husband to the man i got married to and not the one he is now.
The spell caster did the spell and in just 5 days later, my husband came back to his rightful senses and came to my house were i was then staying with my kids. he came crying and begging me and the kids never to do anything rash ever again.
I was surprise seeing my husband crying for his wrong deeds.
And this was what the spell caster told me that its going to happen and indeed it happened.
I am so happy seeing my husband loving me just as we use to when we just got married.
My sincere thanks to the spell caster ''Priest Mountain''
You can reach him on his email id on houseofmountains@gmail.com
Thanks.
Narcisistic mothers all of them, I know I have one, won't bother writing my story, no need it's the same as all of yours.
my mom treat me like a garbge as if i am not her daaughter and my brother and my father like a king
i feel so bad
can someone help me
I feel so bad to hear what your going through. You mom is really selfish. But you know what, keep your head up high, i really have to congratulate you for the way your life turned out. You didn't follow your moms example, instead you decided to do good for yourself. Look at what you've accomplished in your life so far; you going to school, you have a job, a loving husband and beautiful children.
i have a totally opposite problem. my mom loves me too much. she has issues with letting go. i am 29 yrs old and can't keep friends or boyfriends because she chases them off. when i try to do things myself she cries or yells and tells me i am ungrateful. she tells my family that i am crazy because i want to move away and leave her. she always wants to be around me and tells me im her business because shes my mother. she tells me that she is allowed to worry. once i went and got a tattoo. i was gone five hours out of cellphone range. she called me 7 times and i had 5 or 6 texts. all of them about how i was and where i was. the last one she made me seem heartless and mean because i had not text back. she called my cousin every hour to see if i had called. i am in a relationship now and have been for 3 almost 4 years. the only reason it works is because he isnt here to deal with her. she constantly makes up stories about him to my family so that they will hate him. my grandmother believes her. i constantly fight for freedom that other people my age take for granted. i want to take the next step in my life and move and be with my boyfriend. he asked me to marry him and i want to go. but so does she. i am tired all the time from fighting with her to be seen as an adult and not a four year old child. there is such a thing as to much love. and its a slow and painful process of being smothered. i envy you the short phone calls and the disinterest. you can breathe.
I am 54 years old. My mother hated me as well. I was her scapegoat- the youngest by 12 years, unwanted.
She died 3 weeks ago. I hadn't seen her in years. I felt a weight I didn't know was there lift from my spirit when I heard the news.
Joan 2 years ago
I feel for you. I too grew up with a mother who was only concerned about herself. For years I tried to explain (make excuses) for her behavior She finally did something so self centered and so horrible to me I had to walk away from her. It's been about 10 years since I've had any kind of relationship with her. My life has gotten so much better because I walked away from the hate. It doesn't matter what her reasons are anymore. I'm done and I've moved on. I hope you can find that kind of peace.